During the 2026 Olympics, two young women said something that literally stopped me in my tracks. It was not about medals and not about podiums, but about identity, autonomy, and becoming the kind of person your younger self would admire. And I realized that, in just two minutes, Alysa Liu and Eileen Gu articulated what I've been trying to teach women for 10 years. 

Their stories speak to the transformative power of releasing the corset of "perfection." Alysa quit figure skating at 16 to escape a life of restrictions, and then later returned to the sport on her own terms. Eileen’s focus on self-determination and mindset reveals profound lessons we all can learn from.

As we unpack their experiences, you’ll understand how letting go of external pressures and embracing your true self can lead to both personal and health breakthroughs. It’s time to stop living by a script that doesn’t serve you.

Conclusion:

Releasing the corset of perfection is about embracing your true power and living authentically. Wherever you are in your journey, you can decide to choose your own path, control your mindset, and show up for yourself in ways you never thought possible.

In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction and how to pre-order Carrie’s book

01:37 Why a champion’s mindset matters

05:11 Alysa Liu's decision to quit skating to find herself

11:28 Building an identity beyond the scale

14:47 The self-determination theory of autonomy and choice

19:02 Eileen Gu on becoming better by controlling her thoughts

25:39 Alysa’s training work ethic

30:23 A different perspective on struggling

Featured in the Episode:

Eileen Gu’s Response Video: https://x.com/simscircuit/status/2025800996744794380
Alysa Liu’s Training Video: https://www.facebook.com/reel/1523992339261438

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Transcript: 

[00:00:00] Carrie Lupoli: So during the Olympics, two young women said something that literally stopped me in my tracks. Not about medals, not about podiums. About identity, about autonomy, about becoming the kind of person your younger self would admire, and I realized something they articulated in literally two minutes what I've been trying to teach women for 10 years.

[00:00:24] Carrie Lupoli: This episode isn't about athletes or skating or skiing. It's about. Who you are beyond a number. It's about taking off that corset and about choosing your life instead of living by someone else's script, 

[00:00:37] Eileen Gu's video: weight loss industry. 

[00:00:38] Carrie Lupoli: If you are ready to stop chasing the scale and start becoming the champion of your life and actually get better results than any of those diets ever would've given you, then I want you to stay with me because this episode is gonna teach you everything you need to know, and you're gonna learn it from a couple of 20 something.

[00:00:58] Carrie Lupoli: Well, hey there, diet disruptors. Before [00:01:00] we get started on today's episode, I have to share with you my new mug. I am so excited. It says, from Corset to Crown, which is my book, we're getting swag for my book, and right now I'm the only one that gets this. So my book, from Corset to Crown, disrupting everything you've been told about weight loss, confidence, and self-worth.

[00:01:20] Carrie Lupoli: Is coming out this year and ugh, I am so excited. You can go to kerry napoli.com/corset a crown to get your pre-order and get a bunch of bonuses when you do, including the ebook version. So we're very excited about that. But today we are talking all things Olympics. Now, it's been a little bit since the Olympics ended and I, it was during a very busy time of my life, so I wasn't catching.

[00:01:47] Carrie Lupoli: All of the things that were going on, but I much like you got the highlight reel. And there were a couple of things that stood out to me with a few of our incredible [00:02:00] athletes that as I learned their stories, I thought, oh my gosh. Like what they are saying, these young people who are like 20, 22 years old can teach us some very valuable, not just life lessons, but the very thing that you listen to this podcast for, the very thing that I talk about all the time when it comes to weight loss, our health success, confidence.

[00:02:22] Carrie Lupoli: They lay it all out and they show us exactly the things that I feel like I talk about all the time in a way that makes perfect sense. So I am going to talk today about two athletes, two of them that have struck me in such meaningful ways. They're both young women, they are both just incredible athletes.

[00:02:42] Carrie Lupoli: They have a second to none work ethic. And most importantly, a mindset of a champion. And I wanna tell you about both of these women because I think you're gonna take a lot from their stories and from the lessons that they are teaching, maybe unbeknownst to them. [00:03:00] But the reason why being in the mind and the heart of a champion is so important is not because I think you need to go and try to win the next figure skating gold medal.

[00:03:11] Carrie Lupoli: It's not because I think you need to be an Olympic skier, but you are living your life. Your own Olympics, and it is, why wouldn't you try to be the champion of your own life? We are only given one life container folks, and my biggest fear one day is that when I die, God looks at me and says, you did good, but I had so much more planned for you and you couldn't get outta your own.

[00:03:35] Carrie Lupoli: Dang. So today we are gonna help you get out of your own way. And by we, I mean me and my new friends that I don't know, Alyssa Liu is one of them. She is our gold medal winner winning figure skater, who is the first woman to win the gold medal for the United States in 24. Years. And [00:04:00] then we have Eileen Goo, who is a 22-year-old free skier, freeform skier.

[00:04:06] Carrie Lupoli: I'm not even sure how you actually say it. She's a skier. She is unbelievable. But what I learned about her off the slopes is what's really attracted me to her. So we're gonna talk about both of these women. I'm going to share with you a little bit of information. And some video footage, because you gotta see some of this in action in order to really grasp the parallel of how you can apply this to your own life when it comes to health wellness, what you really want, why you want, and as I say all the time, how you become the healthiest version of yourself.

[00:04:37] Carrie Lupoli: You know, I'm 51 and, uh, I cannot get over the fact that these 20 somethings are absolutely rocking my world and teaching me what I need to know. And I love that wisdom often comes not just in age, but in perspective. How you look at the world and your experiences. My guess is these young ladies as [00:05:00] Olympians have had to train and work harder than arguably most of us in our lives.

[00:05:05] Carrie Lupoli: So we should take what they say and give them the respect they deserve because of what they've accomplished already in their life. So let's talk about Alyssa. So Alyssa it, it is absolutely incredible because at 13 years old, she was already a world champion in figure skating, and then she went to the Olympics when she was 16 years old in Beijing, and she came in, I believe it was eighth place.

[00:05:28] Carrie Lupoli: I feel like it was eighth or ninth place, but I wanna say it was eighth place. And it was about at that time that she just decided, I can't do this anymore. She quit. And at 13, she was literally known that she was going to be like a prodigy. She placed, I mean, she went to the Olympics at 16 years old and she quit right after that.

[00:05:49] Carrie Lupoli: And the reason why she quit wasn't because she didn't win the gold. It wasn't because she didn't medal, it was because she had no life. She was. [00:06:00] Absolutely tired of the restriction that was forced upon her in order to train at that level, the deprivation, the need to be perfect, and the complete and total lack of control.

[00:06:10] Carrie Lupoli: And she knew she had to figure out who she was beyond just. Skating. And so she literally took years off. She went hiking. She, she did things that like teenagers do. She got piercings and colored her hair and all of that, and she one day decided to go skiing and the rush of adrenaline that she had brought her back to that same rush of adrenaline she had when she was flying through the air when she was skating.

[00:06:44] Carrie Lupoli: So just a, a few years ago, like literally two years ago, she got back on the ice for the first time on her own terms. She just literally took her laces on her, went to a public rink, and she literally landed like a triple thing and a double thing, [00:07:00] and. Was like, I miss this. And she knew she wanted to come back, but she knew she was gonna do it on her own terms.

[00:07:07] Carrie Lupoli: She said, I, she wasn't gonna live under someone else's control, telling her everything she could eat, she was like, no one's telling me what I can eat anymore. She said, no one's telling me what I'm gonna wear anymore. Nobody's gonna tell me what music I can dance to. She was like. Cannot live this life of always being perfect and strict and deprivation.

[00:07:24] Carrie Lupoli: And that is true for all of us. And I want you to think about this in terms of diet world, diet culture, and the diets that we have had they, they have forced us to believe that in order to do this, we have to be very strict. We have to be perfect. And we have to deprive ourselves. And the minute you wanna go to a party or enjoy yourself or fill your soul in some sort of way, you are the one that fails the diet.

[00:07:49] Carrie Lupoli: The diet doesn't fail you because it's exactly written out perfectly. And if you don't do it perfectly. Well, you aren't gonna be successful. Shame on you for [00:08:00] wanting to have fun. Shame on you for wanting to be able to do things that you choose to do instead of what the diet laid out for you. It's a script, and that's what Alyssa was living.

[00:08:12] Carrie Lupoli: A script that someone else wrote for her and she knew she couldn't do it anymore. She was willing to give up everything. And that is like what? So I see with so many women, they get to the point where that corset, and this is why the name of my book is from Corset to Crown, that corset that was put on us when we were a young girl and we were told it has to be squeezed tighter and tighter and tighter.

[00:08:34] Carrie Lupoli: Alyssa had one as a figure skater. We as women have one when it comes to the size of our bodies that our value is not in who we are, but what we look like. Whenever somebody says to us, oh, you look great, it's code for you. Look smaller. And we have just learned through cultural conditioning that that corset is just a part of it, a part of life, and we have to just keep tightening it.

[00:08:56] Carrie Lupoli: And it was someone like Alyssa at 16 that said, I can't [00:09:00] breathe anymore. I'm taking off the corset. And this is what happens to so many women by the time they're like 50 years old and they're going through unbelievable menopausal symptoms. And they're like, that's it. I can't breathe anymore. I'm done. And they take off the corset and as a result.

[00:09:18] Carrie Lupoli: They become sick. They don't know what else to do other than diet and restrict, so then they just do the opposite side of the spectrum and just go all in. Right? And then this is where they don't even recognize themselves anymore. But Alyssa didn't do that. She figured. Who she was beyond just skating. And I don't think as women, we have any idea how to figure out who we are outside of a number on a scale.

[00:09:48] Carrie Lupoli: We don't even know it's possible to even figure that out, that there's anything beyond what we look like. We are like, okay, I'm gonna focus on this, or basically I'm just gonna [00:10:00] let my whole entire life go to shambles. And it's when I finally get to meet women and give them some hope in so many ways that no, you don't need to wear the corset, but you do need to put on the crown.

[00:10:12] Carrie Lupoli: Like you have a crown that you are born with, you are worthy, and you can show up for yourself and be who you want to be under your own rules. Based on your own dreams and desires, and that's what Alyssa did. She said, I need to get back on that ice. I belong there, but I want something different. If I do this, I want to do it differently.

[00:10:37] Carrie Lupoli: And as a result, she got something different when she skated on that ice. During the Olympics, she divorced herself from the results. She was not there to win a gold medal. She was there to put on the dress that she designed, that she decided she was gonna wear. She wanted to skate to her music and her routine.

[00:10:58] Carrie Lupoli: And because she did it [00:11:00] authentically for herself with herself. Without being restricted by that corset that was keeping her from breathing. She won the first gold medal in 24 years. What does that say to you? Having freedom, loving yourself so much to know who you are, recognizing that health is not about being perfect, but about being true and authentic to who you are.

[00:11:29] Carrie Lupoli: There was an amazing article, and this is actually how I learned all about this from a man named Steve Magnus. And I saw it on X and he had just made a post about it. And then I started going deeper 'cause I was really fascinated by this. And he wrote a much longer article about this around the psychology of what was going on.

[00:11:45] Carrie Lupoli: So I wanna read to you some of this and, and then we're gonna get into, uh, this other woman, Eileen, and then we're gonna come back to Alyssa for a second. But what she, what he said was that Alyssa built an identity that wasn't tied [00:12:00] solely to the ice. She figured out who she was as a human being, and I want us to think about that in parallel to us and tied solely to a number on a scale.

[00:12:11] Carrie Lupoli: It's like when I will first start meeting a woman, I will learn all about how much she has weighed throughout her life before I ever know one thing about her, her family, her life, her job. Anything before I even know where she lives. I will often know what that woman is weigh since she was 20 years old.

[00:12:28] Carrie Lupoli: We have been so stuck around an identity, around a number on a scale, around what we look like, our value being tied to that, that we don't even know who we are as a human being. And what he goes on to write is in psychology, we call this creating self complexity, where you create a robust sense of self that isn't solely tied to one pursuit.

[00:12:49] Carrie Lupoli: You realize you can be a mother, a dad, a scientist, an athlete, an artist, a sister, a person who loves dogs all at once. A complex sense [00:13:00] of self makes us resilient and I wonder, I encourage, I challenge you to actually think about who you are, not just about what you look like or even just about the job you have.

[00:13:15] Carrie Lupoli: Then there's this other piece because once she started exploring all the different components of her and did not identify solely as a figure skater under someone else's reign, and that is what we are, we are a woman that is always trying to lose weight under a, the reign of the diet world. That is not, the weight loss industry, is not, is not trying to help us.

[00:13:37] Carrie Lupoli: They do not have our best interest at heart. They give us a whole sense of a set of rules that we could never follow. You have someone like Alyssa Lou, who is, has tons and tons of skill and work ethic and goals, and she couldn't handle the perfection and the deprivation. None of us can, but yet every single diet from the weight loss [00:14:00] industry.

[00:14:01] Carrie Lupoli: Is around exactly that. No wonder we're not successful. But what's genius is that they have us believing it's a complete brainwash that we are the problem. The only problem that we are is that we listen to them because then the next thing is, oh, you're, you just can't figure this out. We've given you all the tools and you still can't do this.

[00:14:21] Carrie Lupoli: Okay, here's now a weight loss shot to actually do it because we, you can't do it. You can't do this anyway on your own. And it's just this entire level of disempowerment and codependency. So who are you? What are the multiple versions of you in terms of all this multifacetedness, like you are multidimensional.

[00:14:47] Carrie Lupoli: So in addition to this, the other piece that was so important was her being able to have a choice, autonomy, and this, as he writes in his article, is called the self-determination theory. It's one of the most established [00:15:00] frameworks in psychology according to self-determination theory, the level of autonomy or the desire to be causal agents of one's own life.

[00:15:07] Carrie Lupoli: Is Intri intricately tied to our wellbeing? It serves as one of the three basic psychological needs that allows us to flourish and bolsters our motivation. When we feel like we can have an impact on whatever it is we do, we are better off. The ability to have control is central. Not only to overcoming adversity, but to also being a happy, healthy human being.

[00:15:30] Carrie Lupoli: He goes on to say, it's also reflected in our brains. When we are given a choice, our brain responds as if having a choice is the reward in and of itself. This is the opposite of every diet. And this is why as a behavior specialist, I'm so bullish around the idea that you don't need another meal plan. You do need to understand how your body works.

[00:15:52] Carrie Lupoli: You d do need to understand that blood sugar stabilization is your body's love language, and it will put you into physical [00:16:00] balance when you understand that, but it won't be enough if I tell you what to eat. If I hand you the script of food and exercise and water and sleep and literally say, do this, when you lose autonomy, you lose the ability to do anything long-term for the right reasons.

[00:16:24] Carrie Lupoli: Alyssa, when she came back, she redefined her why she divorced herself from the number, meaning being a number one champion. Just like we need to divorce ourself from a number on a scale and actually show up for ourselves for the right reasons and have autonomy. I think about one of my clients, Sue and I wrote about her in the book because she was a teacher and she had swollen really, really, really swollen ankles.

[00:16:55] Carrie Lupoli: She had a lot of issues, a lot of health issues, but one of 'em was swollen ankles. And the doctor, of course, [00:17:00] as is done. In our medical, in our healthcare system and pharmaceutical industries. We just gave her a whole lot of medication. Nothing worked within literal days. Sue's ankles went down when she started working with me and what I had had her do, and I said, I will never tell you what you can or can't eat.

[00:17:18] Carrie Lupoli: I will teach you and you get to make choices. I say that to every single client I work with, and that goes along with self-determination theory. Oh, you're not gonna tell me I can't have something. 'cause the minute you tell me I can't have it, that's what I want. That's what I crave. And so. We had decided together she was going to eliminate certain inflammatory foods like gluten and dairy, for example.

[00:17:42] Carrie Lupoli: So for one month she didn't have those and she really ate clean whole unprocessed foods and within days her ankle went down. She was like, oh my gosh. Well, she went out to dinner with her husband about a month later and she decided she was gonna integrate some cheese back in. They decided to have fondue while she was sitting at the table, her ankle swelled up and she was like, [00:18:00] well, holy heck, we know what the issue is.

[00:18:03] Carrie Lupoli: We know what the root cause is. She chose not to have cheese anymore, but I remember our very first conversation with her. She's like, I can't not do cheese. I just can't not do cheese. What she really was saying was, I can't have rules put on me and be forced to be told I can't have something. She made the choice now not to have it.

[00:18:24] Carrie Lupoli: I never told her that autonomy matters and she still doesn't eat cheese because she has decided that that isn't what she wants. That's freedom. That's what Alyssa wanted, was freedom, right? In order for her to win, it wasn't like she just sat back. She had to work hard in order to move forward, and I am not saying that we just are sitting back.

[00:18:48] Carrie Lupoli: We actually show up for ourselves for different reasons, and it actually allows us to work harder. But it's more authentic. It's more real because it's buried in a very deep [00:19:00] why. Okay. So that was the first thing. I was like, this is amazing. What a great lesson. And then. I was just skirting through Twitter and I got a hold of Eileen Goo.

[00:19:13] Carrie Lupoli: Now again, I have not been a super like big, I am going to watch all the Olympics this year, not because I don't love them. I just had a capacity issue, so I didn't pay attention that much, but this woman made me stop and listen. So I want you to listen before you hear anything else what she has to say. 

[00:19:31] Eileen Gu's video: Do you think before you speak, because you answer questions so quickly and so comprehensively, whether it's about geopolitics or your sport or aerodynamics, like can you take us into your brain?

[00:19:49] Eileen Gu's: Thank you, Charlotte. That's very kind. Um, oh man. Do I think, I think overall I'm just a pensive person. Like I am a very [00:20:00] introspective, I'm an introspective young woman. Like I spend a lot of time in my head. Um, and it's not a bad place to be. I, I journal a lot. I break down all of my thought processes. I think I apply a very analytical lens.

[00:20:12] Eileen Gu's: To my own thinking and I kind of modify it because it's so interesting. You can control what you think, like you can control how you think and therefore you can control who you are. And especially as a young person, like I'm 22, so with neuroplasticity on my side, I can literally become exactly who I wanna be.

[00:20:27] Eileen Gu's: How cool is that? Like how empowering is that? Right. And so the fact is, I get to become every day the kind of person that me at age eight would revere. Like, I would be obsessed with me today. Are you kidding? I would love me. And I think that's the biggest flex of all time that you can have like little younger, you be proud of you today.

[00:20:45] Eileen Gu's: And so I guess for me it's like, yes, I spend a lot of time in my own head. Yes, I think a lot, but it's not really like in an egotistical kind of way. It's in like a tinkering, like a scientist kind of way. I'm always like trying to modify, I'm trying to think how can I be better? How can I approach my own brain the way that I [00:21:00] approach my craft of free skiing, um, so that I can be better tomorrow than I was today.

[00:21:04] Carrie Lupoli: So that I can be better tomorrow than I was today. I want to meet this woman's parents. I, I was like, oh my gosh. And literally, I think that was like a minute and 33 seconds. This 22-year-old articulated what I've been trying to say to women for 10 years. I, I, I, I talk about it in terms of something called the cognitive triangle, and I, I always say you can't control always your feelings, your feelings.

[00:21:29] Carrie Lupoli: Are gonna be your feelings one way or the other. And you can't always control them, but you can control your thoughts and very often our thoughts just attach like a magnet to our feeling. I feel angry, so I'm gonna think angry thoughts. And what this young woman has taught us is that it reminded us we could control our own thinking and analyze it.

[00:21:52] Carrie Lupoli: This woman loves herself. She shows up because she is fascinated with herself, with her brain, what she [00:22:00] can do. She's introspective. She said, I'm pensive. She spends time in her own head. How many of us do this? Very, very few. This is why, this is why I go live every morning on morning time because it's a chance for you to actually spend a little time thinking, I go live every morning on Instagram at 8:00 AM Eastern time because I wanna get you into this place of reflection, but I can't do it for you.

[00:22:28] Carrie Lupoli: You, this is something that she's not. Like listening to someone else, tell her how to think. She's literally sitting down, having a staff meeting with herself every morning, every day, reminding herself that she can control her thinking. She literally was like, you can control what you think and how you think.

[00:22:51] Carrie Lupoli: Therefore, you can control who you. Are the identity that you carry with you will dictate [00:23:00] every single aspect of success in your life. And then she said, you can become who you want to be. And the problem is, which so many of us women think we want to be, is just a person in a corset. Because we don't even realize that we can take it off and be authentically ourselves and dream so much bigger than what the cultural conditioning of the weight loss world has allowed us to believe We can become.

[00:23:25] Carrie Lupoli: We can become the kind of person that the little you would revere, as she said. Think about little you and the little and the dreams that little you had. The ideas, the creativity, and with every year of cultural conditioning in this world made to believe that the only way we have value is if we pull that corset tighter and tighter.

[00:23:51] Carrie Lupoli: It's just disintegrated our ability to even realize that we can become exactly who that little girl [00:24:00] always thought we could be. You can modify how you do things every single day so you can become better. She said that that's how she approaches her craft of skiing, and that's how she approaches her craft of living your craft.

[00:24:24] Carrie Lupoli: Of living and health need to be approached in the same way You can control your thoughts. You are not a victim of the circumstance that happened to you. You have complete and total control over your thinking, and that goes right along with what we just talked about with a Alyssa autonomy. Nobody is telling you that you have to do this and you have to do that.

[00:24:48] Carrie Lupoli: Now, you may have circumstances where you feel like choice is very limited. Regardless of your circumstances, you can respond. It is all [00:25:00] based on your perspective. You, you might be in a place of struggle right now and feeling like, yeah, these women, these young women are strong and healthy. I can't do those things.

[00:25:14] Carrie Lupoli: I'm not asking you to do. Anything like what they're doing, I am asking you to rethink what you are doing, understanding who you are, and believing in the dreams that you had when you were younger. You can be whoever you want to be based on how you decide you're gonna show up. What is your why and what are you going to take control of?

[00:25:40] Carrie Lupoli: So that brings me back to Alyssa Liu because I then, my algorithm, you know, was like, oh, Carrie's watching Olympics. We're gonna show her Olympics. So the next thing that I wanna show you is Alyssa Liu. In training. She has taken the world by storm when it comes [00:26:00] to this story because I think it resonates with so many of us in the need to not feel restricted and deprived and to be our own person.

[00:26:13] Carrie Lupoli: Divorcing yourself from a result is like mind blowing because there's no Olympian that goes in and says, I don't care if I win a medal. Really and truly means it, but she did. But it didn't keep her from working her fricking butt off. And here's the video to prove it. 

[00:26:32] Alysa Liu’s video: Her attachment to her coaches can be literal.

[00:26:35] Alysa Liu’s video: This harness and what looks like a fishing pole help reel her in before she falls. But eventually they have to let her go. 

[00:26:46] Alysa Liu’s video: No, nah. 

[00:26:50] Alysa Liu’s video: This is what it takes to become a champion. Constant pounding. 

[00:26:56] Alysa Liu’s video: I'm so tired 

[00:26:58] Alysa Liu’s video: in pursuit of perfection. [00:27:00] 

[00:27:00] Alysa Liu’s: One more. I saw that when you were training and they're like, okay, that's good.

[00:27:03] Alysa Liu’s: And you're like, one more. Yeah, one more. 

[00:27:05] Alysa Liu’s video: Yeah. Yeah. You 

[00:27:05] Alysa Liu’s: don't need somebody 

[00:27:06] Alysa Liu’s: pushing you. I know. I have my own like determination, my determination's like up there. You're 

[00:27:12] Alysa Liu’s: pretty scrappy. 

[00:27:13] Alysa Liu’s video: I love struggling actually. You do? Yeah. It makes me feel alive. 

[00:27:18] Carrie Lupoli: Okay. There's so much to unpack in that I think it was like one minute long.

[00:27:23] Carrie Lupoli: First of all, her work ethic, I, I think we know this is what makes her so just unique. The brain wants to go with what's comfortable and safe. Self comfort. We will often choose self comfort. Just scroll it on our phone. Staying in bed longer than actual self care, self comfort just keeps us stuck or keeps us the same, but eventually moves us backwards.

[00:27:50] Carrie Lupoli: Self care moves us forward, but moving forward is hard. What's harder is not [00:28:00] actually reaching your potential. What's harder is actually getting sick and then dying of disease, which what's harder is forcing your kids to have to take care of you because you didn't take care of yourself when you were younger.

[00:28:12] Carrie Lupoli: She is a person that cares about performance, not for the sake of winning, but for the sake of living. It's not about winning for her. But her work ethic is unparalleled because she is doing it for her, not for anybody else, but something else. I want you to see. She has a coach. Every single Olympian has a coach.

[00:28:42] Carrie Lupoli: Every single athlete has a coach, and I love that gradual release of responsibility. It's a term we use in education. It's a term I use with my own clients that says, I'm going to be the expert and I'm gonna hold onto you first, but I am going to work to make sure that you don't end, [00:29:00] end up needing the harness anymore.

[00:29:01] Carrie Lupoli: But when we first take the harness off, you're gonna fall. You're gonna fall, you're gonna fall, and you're gonna fall. But you have to get back up. The struggle is part of it, but we have memes and we have quotes that say all that all the time. And we know in our head that these athletes, they've worked hard to get here.

[00:29:20] Carrie Lupoli: But when you see, I mean, I could feel my hip hitting the chi, the ice thinking. That's gotta hurt. That's gotta hurt. How many times are you gonna get hurt and want to keep getting up? But that is what it takes to be a champion going after it, day after day, not quitting, not giving up, but she was not feeling deprived.

[00:29:43] Carrie Lupoli: She was not feeling restricted. She was not feeling controlled because she was making the choice for the reasons that mattered to her. She wanted this. That's where your determination. Has to be different than everything else that you've tried before. [00:30:00] When you have done the diet industry rules, you were restricted.

[00:30:03] Carrie Lupoli: You had the corset on, but taking the corset off doesn't mean you work any less hard. In fact, it means you likely work harder, but very differently, smarter, and for the right reasons. And when you. You know, hit a road bump when you fall on your hip, on the ice, you want to get up and try again. And one of the things that I just thought was the most powerful thing to end with is that she loves struggling.

[00:30:30] Carrie Lupoli: She loves struggling because it makes her realize she's alive. What if we took that perspective and knew that every single struggle, every single disruptive event. Every single circumstance that didn't go as planned is an opportunity to live, to test your strength, to show your character, to produce that integrity, to gain patience, [00:31:00] love, understanding, perspective matters.

[00:31:05] Carrie Lupoli: Two people could be on that ice, and Alyssa was, the 16-year-old, was on that ice falling and falling and getting up for the wrong reasons with the corset on her, and she couldn't do it anymore. And then that same person, but with a different perspective was falling on that ice over and over and over again.

[00:31:28] Carrie Lupoli: But for the right reasons. For her with the corset off, wearing the crown, knowing her value, being unapologetically herself, same fall, totally different perspective, and therefore completely different results. Getting the results that you want is going to solely be around what you decide, how you control your thoughts, why you're doing it, who you are.

[00:31:57] Carrie Lupoli: But you have to take off the corset in [00:32:00] order for you to remotely even begin to breathe to see it. And you gotta start tinkering with your brain, getting yourself up just a few minutes early to spend morning time with yourself, to be able to learn who you are, control your thoughts, and then become whoever it is that that little girl knew you could be with that crown on your head.

[00:32:26] Carrie Lupoli: So I hope that these examples from the Olympics have touched you the way that they've touched me. I'd love to know your thoughts. I'd love to know your comments. Please go ahead and comment below. Share this with anybody that you think could use this as well, and go ahead and tag these Olympians, share 'em with them.

[00:32:41] Carrie Lupoli: I would love for them to see, especially these girls' parents, how impressed I am because I know the power of the influence of the person who's the loudest voice in your life, and very often it is those parents, so kudos to them as well. Please make sure you subscribe. I love when you're on my YouTube channel because that's where I [00:33:00] can show you the videos.

[00:33:01] Carrie Lupoli: That's where I can show you my heart. You can just get a little bit more context when it comes to what we're sharing. So remember, wherever you are in your journey, there is a place for you in this path to becoming the healthiest version of yourself. You just gotta figure out what does she do? What does she say?

[00:33:20] Carrie Lupoli: What does she think, and what does she believe? And become that person today before you even feel ready. 'cause that's the only way you are truly going to live with the freedom of releasing that corset. We'll see you next time.