Getting dressed every morning shouldn't feel like a battle with your body or confidence. In this episode, I sit down with my personal stylist and founder of Storyteller Stylist, Carrie Hagee, to dig into something I've never really talked about on the podcast before: the psychology of style. 

Carrie has spent over a decade helping women reconnect with their identity through the way they dress, and she's bottled all of that expertise into her incredible book, The Style Fit System. She didn’t just build a fashion formula but a framework for knowing yourself.

We walk through every step of the STYLE FIT System together, from understanding your silhouette and skin undertone to unlocking your individuality and finally ditching the invisible fashion rules we've been following for far too long. 

This episode is for every woman who has ever stood in front of her closet feeling invisible, unsure what to wear, or just completely disconnected from the person staring back at her in the mirror.

Conclusion:

Becoming the healthiest version of you means showing up fully and intentionally in every area of your life, and that absolutely includes what you put on your body every morning. Grab Carrie's book, start working through the STYLE FIT System, and give yourself permission to finally dress like you!

In This Episode:

00:00 Meet Carrie Hagee

03:54 Personal style starts with identity and not trends

06:50 How style communicates confidence

10:46 Matching your wardrobe with your lifestyle 

12:36 Carrie Hagee’s Style Fit System 

19:04 Body shape and proportions

20:47 Lifestyle and wardrobe essentials

25:37 Finishing touches, individuality, and trends

Mentioned in the Episode

Carrie Hagee’s Book, The STYLEFIT System: A Complete Guide to Building Your Perfect Wardrobe: https://amzn.to/42TbUl1  

Preorder Carrie’s upcoming book, From Corset to Crown!

Get immediate access to the ebook and other special bonuses at: https://www.carrielupoli.com/corsettocrown  

Carrie’s Live Event in Nashville in October (2026):  https://www.disruptivenutrition.com/liveevent2026

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Transcript: 

[00:00:00] Carrie Hagee: What we have learned as women over the years is that you always have to go out and look a certain way or fit a certain mold in order to be accepted or in order to be seen as fashionable. So we're 

[00:00:14] Carrie Lupoli: often talking about food, and weight loss, and confidence, health, but today we're gonna talk about the invisible pressure women are carrying every single day that you don't even realize.

[00:00:24] Carrie Lupoli: Because for so many women, getting dressed isn't just about clothes, it's about hiding, shrinking, trying to feel good enough, trying to fit into a version of themselves that they've outgrown. And what if the reason so many women feel disconnected from themselves has nothing to do with discipline or all the things that we talk about in health and wellness, and everything to do with true identity?

[00:00:45] Carrie Lupoli: Today's conversation is going to flip the script on everything that you've ever thought about style, fashion, self-image, because my guest and my stylist and author, Carrie Hagee, isn't here to tell you what trends to follow or [00:01:00] what jeans are in. She's here to help women stop dressing for approval and start showing up as themselves.

[00:01:06] Carrie Lupoli: So this episode is all about the psychology behind what we wear and how to make choices that you are going to love. It's part of being the healthiest version of yourself. Let's dig in.

[00:01:20] Carrie Lupoli: Well, hey, Diet Disruptors. Uh, uh, today's episode is gonna be a little bit of like, uh, wait, what, wait, who? Because my guest's name is the same name as me, and she spells it the right way, so that's amazing. We also decided to wear the same color today, which is kind of crazy. But Carrie Hagee is a friend of mine that I have known for a long time, and she is...

[00:01:44] Carrie Lupoli: She was my personal stylist, uh, years ago, and she styles women. And she's the founder of Storyteller Stylist, and the reason why I brought her on today is because she has spelt- spent more than a decade [00:02:00] helping women, not just, like, it's not about just what you're wearing and why you're choosing what you're wearing, it's really about the inner work of who you are and what you wanna communicate.

[00:02:11] Carrie Lupoli: And I love talking to Carrie because she does things very differently than a typical stylist that's, like, trying to get you to wear certain things or when you kind of hear about trends. Like, that's not necessarily what Carrie's doing. She is so strong at helping a woman feel and look her best for the right reasons.

[00:02:36] Carrie Lupoli: And she has an incredible book all about the framework she's gonna teach today called The Style Fit System, and it is about practical body positive styling solutions for every lifestyle. And so whether you are, like, a stay-at-home mom, if you work in the corporate world, if you have an online business and you're an [00:03:00] influencer, it's about feeling empowered, and that's what Carrie does.

[00:03:04] Carrie Lupoli: So this is a very different episode than anything we've ever really done before, because I am all about, not about what you look like, but about who you are, the purpose you serve, and becoming the healthiest version of yourself. So bringing a stylist on might find a little, s- seem a little weird and odd, but it really isn't, because Carrie is like r- my soul sister when it comes to this stuff.

[00:03:26] Carrie Lupoli: Not only do we have the same name, but we have the same philosophy about who we are as women and how we communicate who we are. So Carrie, welcome. I'm so happy to have you here. 

[00:03:36] Carrie Hagee: Aw. Thank you, Keri. I'm so glad to be here. You are such an inspiration to everyone who sees you, knows you, and, um, just over the years of knowing you, I am, I am Very fortunate to, to, to get to speak with you today.

[00:03:53] Carrie Hagee: Oh my gosh. So thank you. No, I'm really, really excited. You 

[00:03:56] Carrie Lupoli: actually first styled me back in, like, 2018, [00:04:00] 2019, I think. Yeah, yeah. And, um, it was eye-opening to me in a lot of ways because I, to me, I love style, I love fashion. I love as women we can actually decide I'm gonna wear my Lululemons one day, or I'm just gonna wear my pajamas, or I'm gonna get all dolled up to the nines.

[00:04:20] Carrie Lupoli: Like, I love that we have the variety in our own world to be able to, to do that. But I also think so many of us have our identity in what we look like, and what you do is you kind of separate the belief that your value is in what you look like with understanding who you are, what you want, why you want it, and how your style actually coordinates with that.

[00:04:46] Carrie Lupoli: Explain more. 

[00:04:48] Carrie Hagee: Yeah. You know, I think what we have learned as women over the years is that you always have to go out and look a certain way or fit a certain mold in [00:05:00] order to be accepted or in order to be, you know, seen as fashionable, right? Um, and I think when I ... Over the years, and I've applied this to myself, over the years as working with many clients, one thing that I have noticed is- It's, that's just not the day-to-day life of most women.

[00:05:23] Carrie Hagee: And you knowing, getting back to the basics of knowing who you are, your foundation, um, is really what style is all about. It isn't about this person who says you need to be wearing this trend. Yes. Or, you know, you 

[00:05:42] Carrie Lupoli: can't- Like, skinny jeans are out, wide leg jeans are in. Low rise is out, high rise is in. I'm like, oh my God, we call them mom jeans and like it was, uh, it was, um, disparaging, and then mom jeans are cool, and I'm like, I, what am I supposed to do?

[00:05:57] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah, yeah. Also, 

[00:05:58] Carrie Hagee: like why are we even chasing it? [00:06:00] Right. Exactly. Exactly. And that can get exhausting, right? So it's really about going back to the foundation of who you are, and, you know, as an individual. We are all different, but this philosophy that I have set with the Style Fit System, it is a system that I have created as a personal stylist, and it has

[00:06:23] Carrie Hagee: Every woman can use this and apply the steps no matter where you are in your life, and I think that's important instead of following what is the latest trend. What is, um, what, you know, jeans should I wear today that'll be acceptable, you know? So that's really- Yes ... what I think it boils down to. 

[00:06:44] Carrie Lupoli: You're unlocking a lot of things right now that I want to tap into first, and then I can't wait to get into this system because, uh, I think in order for us to really take a hold of what you're talking about, we have to understand who we are.

[00:06:57] Carrie Lupoli: Like, what, w- what is my identity [00:07:00] when it comes to that? And I love that clothes, style can actually communicate that. But so many women that come knocking on my door in my private practice, when we first meet them, it's so interesting the clothes that they choose to wear because they are so frustrated with themselves and their body.

[00:07:16] Carrie Lupoli: They don't like themselves very much. They don't put themselves in front of anybody. Or, I mean, in, like in, in front of, in the front of the line, right? Yeah. Everybody else comes first. And it's almost like when I see sometimes what we choose to wear, uh, how we choose to present ourselves, it actually reflects back on that energy of how we feel about ourselves.

[00:07:37] Carrie Lupoli: Would you agree? 

[00:07:38] Carrie Hagee: I agree. I agree. You know, th- this reminds me of a client that I worked with who was doing a photo shoot, and she, you know, when I was working with her, she was constantly upset about her figure and her body, and how, you know ... It, and as, as we, I kept working with her, and as it boiled down to, um, it was, it was what she was wearing.

[00:07:59] Carrie Hagee: She [00:08:00] wasn't feeling like herself, and she couldn't find the right clothes to wear for this photo shoot to feel like her. So I found this dress and I said, "Hey, this may not be something that you've ever thought about wearing before, but I just want you to try it. This, this, you know, is great for your body shape, um, you know, your skin undertone, all that stuff, your contrast levels, all that I talk about."

[00:08:24] Carrie Hagee: Yeah, the stuff you know about. Yeah. And, and I teach w- I, I teach women in the book. So she, she got this dress and she's like, "Oh my goodness." She showed up to that photo shoot with that dress, and she messaged me right after that and was in tears. She's like, "I felt so confident going into this photo shoot for the first time."

[00:08:48] Carrie Hagee: I get teary thinking about this, how much I love my clients and how much I love helping them. Um, but she's like, "I felt so confident, and I felt so great. I actually felt like me for the [00:09:00] first time in years." She's like, "That ended up being my favorite outfit, my favorite dress." And I bet 

[00:09:05] Carrie Lupoli: you those pictures came out the best too because- Beautiful

[00:09:08] Carrie Lupoli: the energy that y- you exude matters, and I think sometimes we choose less for ourselves, even with what we put on our body, because we don't feel deserving. And I think sometimes when I, when some of the things that you've chosen for me or that, uh, I'll see out and I'm like, "Oh, I could never do that"- And it's, and it's a mindset issue.

[00:09:28] Carrie Lupoli: It's a value is- issue versus anything else. Right. But you know what I do think about, and I think this is so interesting because it, to your point, it isn't really about trend. It's about what do you love and who, who, how do you wanna just portray yourself? Uh, my daughter and I are watching Criminal Minds right now, like we're watching like every episode in the world, and there's this one character in there who wears bright yellow and bright yellow hair and bright yellow stuff.

[00:09:54] Carrie Lupoli: And I don't know if it's her right undertones or not, but it like, it's who she is, right? And I love that. [00:10:00] I think about that with nails. You know when you see women with all the different kinds of nails, you see some with really long nails, you see the coffin nails, the square nails, people that don't get their nails done at all, and I feel like it's the one part of our body that we feel we are allowed to do whatever we want because it's like a tiny part of it.

[00:10:18] Carrie Lupoli: But it's always fascinating to me how somebody with really, really long nails, like that's not my thing. That's not my style. I would never do that for me. But she loves it, and she lets herself do something that other people may not like. And I think we need to also kinda think about that in the bigger picture, that what we choose to put on our body, the way we choose to kind of live our lives may not be what everybody else wants, but it's about what you want.

[00:10:41] Carrie Lupoli: Right. And I think that that's what you teach. 

[00:10:44] Carrie Hagee: Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. You know, and it's also about your, your lifestyle right now too because as you change throughout your life, you know, you go through different stages of life. There may be some women who are, you know, right now in the [00:11:00] heart of being a new mom, right?

[00:11:02] Carrie Hagee: That's a different stage of life than where, when you were m- when you didn't have kids, and you maybe were just focused on a career. Your wardrobe's gonna look and feel different, you know, because you may have, at this point, you may just need 10% of your wardrobe to be career-based- 

[00:11:19] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah ... 

[00:11:20] Carrie Hagee: focused, and then, you know- 80% of your, you know, 80, 90% to be more day-to-day life, like what you would wear day to day.

[00:11:30] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah. 

[00:11:31] Carrie Hagee: So- And I, 

[00:11:31] Carrie Lupoli: but I do think like for, especially like for the situations like that, like you're in the thick of it. You've got two young kids, younger, younger than me. I'm now the empty nester, but also I'm going out more now. So I'm like swapping and I'm realizing, I don't know what I like. Yeah. Like I'm so used to wearing like my stay-at-home clothes, and I'm like, oh my gosh.

[00:11:52] Carrie Lupoli: And it also, it's just actually making me think about, okay, who am I? Like, what do I like? What do I want? 'Cause the last time I wore corporate clothes on a [00:12:00] regular basis was many, many, many years ago. And so I think it really is an interesting, uh, activity in identity in, in some ways. 

[00:12:09] Carrie Hagee: It is, and I mean, and that can, you know, obviously change.

[00:12:12] Carrie Hagee: I, I, I'm in a different stage in my life right now than what I was, you know, 20 years ago. 

[00:12:17] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah. 

[00:12:18] Carrie Hagee: So, and I've noticed that in myself, and, and, and my wardrobe is very different now than what it was, you know, then. But what it, no matter, this, the book, the Style Fit System itself follows you through every stage.

[00:12:32] Carrie Hagee: You can apply it to every stage of your life. So 

[00:12:35] Carrie Lupoli: I'm 

[00:12:35] Carrie Hagee: so excited 

[00:12:36] Carrie Lupoli: about this. So let's dig in. We've got seven, is it like seven steps, seven frameworks, kinda seven things that we're thinking about, right? Yeah. 

[00:12:42] Carrie Hagee: So I have it in front of me, and I always have to look, 'cause it is a bit- 

[00:12:47] Carrie Lupoli: It's so funny. Do you know, in my book too, I ha- you know, I wrote it, and I had- Right

[00:12:50] Carrie Lupoli: I read it, I don't know, two dozen times, and I'm still like, wait, what 

[00:12:56] Carrie Hagee: did I write about that? Yeah. Yeah. It is true. Um- I mean, I've probably looked at the thing, this thing 500 times, [00:13:00] um, just in the past two weeks. But, um, yeah, so the style, so Style Fit stands for, each letter stands for something. And if you remember that, and you can apply that to each, um...

[00:13:14] Carrie Hagee: If you... It, it is basically it helps you to learn who you are personally when it comes to your personal style. So S is silhouette, right? So, um, that's really like, oh, your bone structure. Sorry, I was trying to think of bone. Yep. Yep. Yep. Your bone structure. Yep. That's something that's not gonna change, right?

[00:13:33] Carrie Hagee: Your bone structure is set for life, that's that. Um, knowing that's important because if you have a small bone structure, for example, you don't wanna wear, um, really large prints because it, it's go, it's going against you. You wanna stick with like the low to medium prints. So, um, that's just an example. Um, the tone, like your color palette- I, I am the type [00:14:00] of person who thinks it's really important to focus on colors you gravitate towards in addition to, you know, knowing, like, your skin undertone, which you can figure 

[00:14:10] Carrie Lupoli: out- Don't you think that we naturally gra- or do you think, I shouldn't say don't you like I'm leading the witness.

[00:14:15] Carrie Lupoli: I know you're asking. But do you think, because I've been back and forth on this a little bit. I recently got my colors done, and my pink that's all over my website is not in my color tone, and I'm like, "What the heck?" But it is a color that I actually don't gravitate towards myself. Uh-huh. And so, and then when I saw my colors, you know, from my color analysis, it's like, oh, those colors I really do gravitate towards.

[00:14:39] Carrie Lupoli: It's like this branding color of mine became a color of mine, but it actually isn't one that I would ever gravitate to. So my question is, do we naturally tend to gravitate towards the colors that seem to work best for our undertones? 

[00:14:53] Carrie Hagee: You do 

[00:14:54] Carrie Lupoli: mostly, yes. Absolutely. Because there were times I bought stuff and I would, it would be hanging in my closet forever, [00:15:00] and I'm like, "I just never wanna put it on."

[00:15:02] Carrie Hagee: Yeah. 

[00:15:03] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah, no, here's the thing- You know? And then I realized, I'm like, oh, that's a color that's actually not even in my palette. Maybe there was this unconscious thing that I knew.

[00:15:13] Carrie Hagee: Yeah, I mean, typically you do gravitate towards colors that are best, that best suit you. And when I focus on color, I'm focusing on what looks best closest to your face, because you want something that's gonna wake you up, warm you up, you know, not make you look flat or tired. And, um, so for example, if you have, like, a warm skin undertone, then you wanna gravitate towards colors that are warm colors, right?

[00:15:40] Carrie Hagee: Um, however, there are changes to that, and it's called your inherent colors. So your inherent colors come into play, and I talk about this in the book too. Like, for your eye color, that's an inherent color. Oh, right. Well, I'm a warm skin undertone, and I gravitate towards warm colors or [00:16:00] colors that have, you know, warm base to them when I'm wearing it, you know, closest to my face.

[00:16:06] Carrie Hagee: But also I look great in green- Yeah ... because I have green, uh, green hazel eyes that have a hint of blue in them too. But so when I wear that shade of green that's in my eyes, which isn't one of my inherent colors, you would think, "Well, green's a cool color," but it looks great on me because it's one of my inherent colors.

[00:16:23] Carrie Lupoli: So this is interesting too, because I found myself, but when I got my color analysis done, and then because I do media, like, I, I'll be told, like, "Bright colors. Bright colors. Bright colors," right? 

[00:16:32] Carrie Hagee: Mm-hmm. 

[00:16:32] Carrie Lupoli: And I realize I, I am just, I gravitate towards black. And what I learned about myself is it just allows me to feel safe.

[00:16:42] Carrie Lupoli: Like, feel like I'm not doing anything wrong and almost hide. And so I just have found that to be an interesting strategy that I was using when I was not wanting to stand out. And again, I think that, like, color is so interesting when it comes to our [00:17:00] identity, and it took me a while to realize I was doing that.

[00:17:02] Carrie Hagee: Yeah. Yeah. No, that's a great point, because I hear that a lot. I mean, women do that a lot. But, you know, I try to, I try to encourage color, adding color into, into your wardrobe. Um, but it has to be one that you're comfortable with. And it doesn't have to be bright, but it just has to be something that, you know, 'cause some of the brighter colors are technically could be a power color for you.

[00:17:26] Carrie Hagee: There are such thing as power colors as well. So if you really wanna stand out, you would wear one of your power colors. 

[00:17:32] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah, it's so interesting to me, because I think when, i- if, i- if we don't wanna wear a color or if somebo- if somebody's listening to this, they're like, "Oh, I don't like to wear color," the, the next question to me is why.

[00:17:42] Carrie Lupoli: Like, why is that? Because that's to me the bigger, the bigger thing to explore. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And, uh, whenever I wear a, like a bright color, it's like- People either approach me differently or the energy is different. Like, I can't explain it, but there's like a different [00:18:00] vibe that happens. And I just think experimenting a little bit is a really interesting thing to do as we all are w- and this is why people who listen to the podcast are, they're becoming the healthiest version of themselves.

[00:18:12] Carrie Lupoli: And playing with this can allow you to actually see yourself in a bit of a different way. 

[00:18:16] Carrie Hagee: Yeah, and just take, take different colors and hold them up to your face and notice the difference, you know? And what, how, how you appear, like, in the mirror. Uh, you know, one, one color for me that I cannot wear at all, and I know this for sure, is gray And, you know, I, it, it, it really washes me out.

[00:18:37] Carrie Hagee: I look really tired. So I don't have any shirts that I buy that are gray. Yeah. It just doesn't suit me. Yeah. But you ... You know, I teach this in the book, and there are worksheets, um, at the end of each chapter of the book that you can write down what you are- I 

[00:18:52] Carrie Lupoli: love that ... what colors you love. And so- Yeah, this book has been years and years and years of you working one-on-one with women and saying, like, "Not everybody can afford a stylist, so [00:19:00] how can they get these, these tenets and apply them in their life?"

[00:19:04] Carrie Lupoli: Okay, so we had S, your silhouette, T for your tone. Wonderful. Then I guess we get 

[00:19:09] Carrie Hagee: Y? Yeah, yeah. So that's your body shape and your proportions. So, um, so your body shape can alter a little bit, not drastically. So for example, somebody who is a triangle body shape, means their hips are wider than their shoulders, can, can become a, an hourglass, you know?

[00:19:31] Carrie Hagee: It just kind of dep- depends on, you know, where you are in your life with, you know, weight fluctuations, your, you know, stuff like that. And again, no one body shape, let me tell you this, this is very important. No one body shape is better than another. Oh, amen. They're all equal, so- But you know what's 

[00:19:50] Carrie Lupoli: so crazy is that, like, whatever is the trend of that type of body shape in whatever season or generation or year that we're in, we all, [00:20:00] we're all thinking we need to go look like that person, and it doesn't make any sense.

[00:20:03] Carrie Lupoli: Because we're trying, like, to go after something that is not uniquely about us. So anyway, I could get on a whole soapbox about that- ... but I love that you said that. 

[00:20:11] Carrie Hagee: Yes, I agree completely. So this ch- you know, in the book, um, I teach you how to find your body shape. It's not challenging, so it's not difficult.

[00:20:20] Carrie Hagee: Anyone can do it. You just need to know, you know, how, how- And then 

[00:20:23] Carrie Lupoli: from 

[00:20:23] Carrie Hagee: there, 

[00:20:24] Carrie Lupoli: once you know your body shape, does that help with the types of, uh, either colors or clothing that kind of, uh, I guess enhances that- Yeah ... positively? 

[00:20:35] Carrie Hagee: You know, it helps with the fit. It helps with the shape- Okay ... of clothing. Yeah, yeah.

[00:20:39] Carrie Hagee: So I, I get into that. Okay. So for example, if you- So we did S-T-Y-L. Yeah. And then, so- Feel like I'm on Wheel of Fortune. Lifestyle. Your lifestyle, it's so important. You know, think about this. It'll teach you, like, you know, versatility. Like, what's your lifestyle? Focus on that. Don't focus on what [00:21:00] someone's telling you to do and how to dress.

[00:21:03] Carrie Hagee: You know, oh, the latest trends. Focus on your lifestyle. 

[00:21:07] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah, I love that. I- it's so funny, because I'll, like, wear yoga pants in the day, and then I'm like, at, at night when I'm working from home all day, I'm like, "I gotta get out of these yoga pants." And then I go put on, like, another pair of yoga pants. But, uh, you know, I do think that sometimes, like, we, we don't take that into consideration as much, and we, and we, I think spend and waste a lot of money on things that- are either what other people tell us to buy or they don't fit the life that we're living, and then it's- Right

[00:21:35] Carrie Lupoli: always you get back into why? Why? 

[00:21:37] Carrie Hagee: Right. I mean, you're not gonna show up, I mean, most people, okay, maybe if you're a celebrity, but most people are not gonna show up to your kid's soccer game in a dress and heels. I mean, you know, you, you have to focus on what is your lifestyle right now. What, what is... And one way to do this too is look at the majority of the clothes in your wardrobe that you're wearing day to day.

[00:21:57] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah. I mean, I, I've done that recently. I'm like, [00:22:00] "Holy cow." It's only a certain few. And you know, I think you make a good point. Like, when you go to a soccer game and you're, maybe you're in jeans and sneakers, it's just like w- what is it that makes you feel like you are communicating who you are, whether it's jeans and sneakers or whether it's, you know, a sequin gown?

[00:22:20] Carrie Lupoli: So. 

[00:22:20] Carrie Hagee: Right. Right. And but, you know, you can wear jeans and sneakers and a T-shirt, but it still look very, very much you and classy- Yeah ... you know, in your way, right? Right. So, um- Because a- and 

[00:22:33] Carrie Lupoli: again, I think there's this whole psychology behind what we're wearing and what ... and, and, and our, our relationship with ourselves.

[00:22:39] Carrie Lupoli: Because when we f- don't give ourselves any attention to what we're wearing, when we feel disheveled, when we're throwing on dirty clothes 'cause we didn't do laundry, and like, it just, we show up differently in our lives than if we feel like we are put together and intentional. I always joke, I'm like, "When I'm wearing matching underwear, I feel like my [00:23:00] life is together."

[00:23:01] Carrie Lupoli: Nobody is ever gonna see the matching underwear, but it's like inside, I'm like, "Look at you go. Look at you go, girl." Well, yeah, and it brings that confidence out. Yeah. No one has to know why, 

[00:23:11] Carrie Hagee: but it brings- 

[00:23:11] Carrie Lupoli: Right ... 

[00:23:11] Carrie Hagee: more confidence out. Right. Absolutely. 

[00:23:13] Carrie Lupoli: It's like this internal little joke with myself and it's great.

[00:23:17] Carrie Hagee: I love that, Carrie. Oh. And then, um, you know- All right. We have S-T-Y-L-E now. Things are essentials. Those are just some wardrobe staples, and those vary, again, same wardrobe staples are not gonna be the same from one person to the next. Yeah. Again, depends on where you are in your life. Um, and for, for some people that may be, you know, yoga pants, uh- Yeah

[00:23:39] Carrie Hagee: as a work- or as a staple for your wardrobe. Yeah. So it really just depends. Um- Oh, I gotta 

[00:23:46] Carrie Lupoli: tell you, I discovered the other day, this is a total sidebar, Aritzia. I have never been in that store before and I walked in because my daughter, like, always wants like one sweater from Aritzia, like on Christmas or something.

[00:23:59] Carrie Lupoli: And so I walk in and [00:24:00] I look around and I'm like, "Oh my gosh, are all these clothes made for me?" I spent an obscene amount of money- ... on clothes. But it was like the first time I'd walked into a store that wasn't about athleisure wear, and I was like, "This stuff ..." It, it, I felt like it was, it was made for Carrie Lapole.

[00:24:15] Carrie Lupoli: I just felt like my name was on that store, and it was like such a connection I had to the brand, which is so funny to me. It was mix and match. It was like easy. It was casual, but up-leveled and elevated. And I'm like, "Oh, my gosh, that's like the identity of how I feel I, I want to portray." And so anyway, that's a total sidebar, but you've just got me thinking about h- that emotion of walking into Aritizia and finding stuff that I loved in all in one store was like very, very interesting as I- So this, so this- As I- Right

[00:24:44] Carrie Lupoli: kind of reflected on why I was so excited about spending that much money. 

[00:24:49] Carrie Hagee: Well, so, so you were their target audience. Like they are, you're, you're, they're ... You're looking for- comfortable, easy to put together, and quick Yeah. [00:25:00] Yeah And that's what it was. And, and- Yeah ... and that's where you are at that point in your life 

[00:25:05] Carrie Lupoli: when you- But I didn't know it until I walked in, and I think that's what you're doing right now is helping us to learn this and know this so then you can make decisions really confidently, not waste money, and also not just kind of throw on whatever's there and then kind of, I don't know, perpetuate this lack of love in s- in some way for yourself.

[00:25:25] Carrie Hagee: Absolutely. Absolutely. 

[00:25:27] Carrie Lupoli: Okay. All right. So now we're on what, what... I, I don't even know what letter we're on anymore. F. F. Oh, that's right. Fit, F-I-T. We did S-T-Y-L-E, F. Yes. 

[00:25:37] Carrie Hagee: So this is where you tr- bring all of it together in that what you've learned. So you've learned, uh, what colors look best on you. You've learned what styles of clothing works best on you.

[00:25:49] Carrie Hagee: You've learned to fit that in with your lifestyle, right? And so now you are going to add some details and finishing touches. This is where you add in some jewelry options [00:26:00] and where you add in some little details, um, to your outfit. Adding in jewelry can be something simple. I mean, you know- Jewelry has changed over the years.

[00:26:09] Carrie Hagee: It used to be this big costume jewelry and, but people are toning it down and having, having it to be more, you know, simpler. Because- Yeah ... again, fits your lifestyle, right? I- Fits your lifestyle ... 

[00:26:22] Carrie Lupoli: I, 

[00:26:22] Carrie Hagee: this is a 

[00:26:22] Carrie Lupoli: really good example. I made a decision that I don't wear earrings anymore. Like, I just hate them.

[00:26:28] Carrie Lupoli: They, they hurt. Like, I, I, I used to barrel through. I don't know why. Ever since I was a kid, like when I got my ears pierced, I al- they always bothered me. And I finally, I think I was like 48 years old, I mean, it took me almost 50 years where I was like, I, I'm not wearing earrings anymore, and I didn't care if it was like fashionable or not fashionable, but I didn't want to hurt and I didn't feel like I, I cared to

[00:26:55] Carrie Lupoli: Like, they weren't doing anything for me. They were doing something for s- everybody else maybe that were looking at them. But [00:27:00] it was like a real decision where I was like, "Okay, yeah, uh, a- again, uh, I like wha- what do I want? Why do I, why do I want to, why, why am I doing this to myself?" It's like that corset I talk about, like, just because like I was supposed to wear earrings.

[00:27:13] Carrie Lupoli: Right. And, uh, yeah. So I've made that decision to nev- never wear earrings again. 

[00:27:18] Carrie Hagee: Yeah, no, and I mean, I think, I think that sounds like a great advice because if something isn't working with you or something is doesn't feel like you, then there, there's no, there's no rule that says you have to keep it, right?

[00:27:32] Carrie Hagee: Yeah. There's no rule that says you have to do it. 

[00:27:34] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah. So. But we 

[00:27:35] Carrie Hagee: think there's rules. Right. Right. And I think 

[00:27:37] Carrie Lupoli: that's the, the whole point of like the corset that I wrote about is like w- like we can actually take off the corset and make our own rules. Right. Absolutely. Yeah, I love it. Okay, so that's F. 

[00:27:48] Carrie Hagee: And then I is individuality.

[00:27:50] Carrie Hagee: Hmm. So again, it goes back to your personal style, and if you don't know what your personal style is, by the time you get to I, you will [00:28:00] know because you will have learned in the book what your personal style is. And again, it can change throughout the years, and it does. Um, but if you keep going back to this, like at every aspect of your life, you will know what your personal style is, and you will know, and you'll feel comfortable at this point, you know, looking through your wardrobe and, and saying, "This isn't working for me.

[00:28:21] Carrie Hagee: I'm getting rid of it," you know? Yes. Um, I'm willing to try, uh, you know, these colors because I, I do love them. If you look at a painting and you, and you're admiring the painting and there's certain colors that you just adore and that stand out, they're usually for a reason, so try those colors, you know?

[00:28:39] Carrie Hagee: Um, so we'll have that in line, and then, um- At this point, your individual personal style will become obvious to you. 

[00:28:49] Carrie Lupoli: Oh, that is so good. And it's really around, I, I think at the end of the day, figuring that out. 

[00:28:55] Carrie Hagee: It is, yes. 

[00:28:56] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah, yeah, yeah. 

[00:28:57] Carrie Hagee: Okay. And then, then when we go, um, I [00:29:00] did add trends in there, so T is trends, but it's incorporating them in a balanced way.

[00:29:07] Carrie Hagee: You know, some people when we see trends and it, it is like, okay, I've had people tell me, "Well, I bought the, those pants that are very trendy right now. They look terrible on me." Like, I'm like, "Because they weren't right for you." Yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't- 

[00:29:21] Carrie Lupoli: Like, like, uh, I was willing to talk about the barrel jeans for a minute, and then I tried them on, I'm like, "I'm not willing to talk about these anymore."

[00:29:30] Carrie Lupoli: Oh. And, and I have no problem with them on other people. I was just like, I can't, I can't do it. I just can't do it. Yeah. I can't do it either, but I do recognize- But it is interesting to see the trends. But like, as you get to be in your 50s like me now, it's like, oh my gosh, I can s- I wish I had saved ... Like, my daughters were like, "Oh my gosh, Mom, I wish you had saved your clothes from the '90s."

[00:29:48] Carrie Lupoli: And I'm like, this is so crazy. It's so crazy. But it is interesting to see the trends, but it also, I think, is a reminder of like, it's an [00:30:00] opinion about what looks good. Mm-hmm. And I mean, the, the fitting in is like not, to me, where we need to be focusing on. And just looking at trends is a really good example of that because the same outfit that, you know, was pooh-poohed 10 years ago is now back as the top thing to wear again.

[00:30:26] Carrie Hagee: It's true, and, and trends are just that, right? They, they come in, they stay for a little bit, and they're gone. And so it's okay to add those into your wardrobe in a balanced way if ... But by the reason why I put that last is because you will already know your style at that point and what trends that you wanna try and what trends you're like, "Th- those aren't for me."

[00:30:50] Carrie Hagee: Yeah, they're so much 

[00:30:50] Carrie Lupoli: different than starting with trends. Yes, absolutely. I love that that's the last thing, and it's something to consider and think about, but it's a hook to me around intentionality and knowing who you are, what you [00:31:00] want, and why you want it. And it, it connects with your health. It connects with your job.

[00:31:04] Carrie Lupoli: It connects with your parenting, your finances, and your style. And I love that we're kind of filling this little, this little niche area that we've never really talked about before, and that you're so, you're so tuned into, so this is really exciting. 

[00:31:19] Carrie Hagee: Yes, yes. And, and I, I want people to read The Style Fit System book and look at it as, um, y- you know, that, that is just the

[00:31:28] Carrie Hagee: That is your base. You start there. When you want to know what your personal style is, what looks best on you, how to feel the most confident, and showing up for you- This is where you start. Yeah. This is, this is the basics of, of personal style. To me, this is 

[00:31:45] Carrie Lupoli: a continuation of becoming the healthiest version of yourself.

[00:31:48] Carrie Lupoli: What does the healthiest version of you do, say, think, and believe? And, uh, I think a piece of this has to be considered. So I, I'm so excited that we chatted about this. So Carrie, tell everybody where they [00:32:00] can find you. I have your book pulled up here. Um, I see it on Amazon. You can get it, you can get it on Amazon, The Style Fit System: A Complete Guide to Building Your Perfect Wardrobe.

[00:32:10] Carrie Lupoli: It's $19.99, and I mean, easy. I- Couldn't be- E- like- ... probably ... that is the most affordable way to have a stylist. For sure. It is. But where can they find you, um, in addition to that? 

[00:32:23] Carrie Hagee: Yeah. So I'm @storytellerstylist on Facebook and Instagram, and my website, storytellerstylist.com. Um- And I love 

[00:32:32] Carrie Lupoli: that, what you stand for with that, because you tell a story with your style.

[00:32:37] Carrie Lupoli: That's right. And- Yeah ... it, it's an incredible way to 

[00:32:40] Carrie Hagee: think about that It's, it's only a story that you can tell. Yes. So think of that. Um, not anyone else. No one else can tell your story, so. 

[00:32:48] Carrie Lupoli: Yeah. 

[00:32:49] Carrie Hagee: N- 

[00:32:49] Carrie Lupoli: yeah. I love that so much. And nor should your story be like anyone else's. That's right. And so- So ... this is great.

[00:32:56] Carrie Lupoli: Oh, well, thank you so much, Carrie. Make sure you go follow her. She does great stuff [00:33:00] on Instagram, and the book is amazing. Thank you for sharing all of your insight, and hopefully everybody starts to look at their, their, the way that they put themselves out in the world a little bit differently. Yeah. Thanks, Carrie.

[00:33:12] Carrie Hagee: Thank you, Carrie. Appreciate it.