If Oprah Winfrey, with all her success, still feels broken by societal expectations of weight and beauty, what does that mean for the rest of us? On this episode, I challenge common narratives about obesity, Ozempic, and self-worth, offering a different perspective that I hope Oprah will hear.

I’m talking about Oprah's recent comments about the obesity gene and her struggles with body image. Oprah, who’s been at the forefront of many conversations on weight loss and health, has recently gone viral for sharing her belief that genetics is to blame for obesity. 

I have a different perspective on this issue, one that opposes decades of societal conditioning and the idea that our worth is tied to the number on a scale. Together, let's explore how this message impacts every woman, including Oprah, and how we can reframe our approach to health, food, and self-love.

Conclusion:

It’s time to embrace the self-love and worth that we all deserve. Forget chasing numbers on a scale. Focus on the healthiest, most balanced version of yourself, inside and out. We have to stop the cycle of shame based on weight and start honoring our true value.

In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction & Oprah's viral statement on obesity

05:43 The corset of cultural conditioning

09:05 Obesity gene and medical misconceptions

13:29 Food noise and its true source

17:47 Oprah's public shaming because of weight

26:46 A new message and legacy for Oprah

35:53 Embracing self-worth and your healthiest version

Mentioned in the Episode:

Oprah’s First Video: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTgHAaxEcD_/?igsh=MzMyYmZpOTV0Z2c4 

Oprah’s Second Video: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTgJgRpiec8/?igsh=MWprbmxkajBzdzh2dA%3D%3D

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Transcript: 

[00:00:00] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: Now I understand that if you carry the obesity gene, mm-hmm. If that is what you have, that is what makes you overeat. Obesity causes you to overeat, right? Obesity causes you to have all of that food noise. 

[00:00:14] Carrie Lupoli: If Oprah Winfrey, with all her money, resources, success, and influence, still believes her body is broken, what does that mean for the rest of us?

[00:00:22] Carrie Lupoli: Today, I'm not here to shame Oprah. I'm here to tell the truth about what's really been done to women for decades: the corset. We were told to continuously tighten the lie that our worth lives on a scale, and the dangerous story being sold right now about obesity, Ozempic food noise. This episode is not what you think it is.

[00:00:41] Carrie Lupoli: It's not anti-Oprah. It is pro-woman. And if this message ever needed to be heard, it's right now, and I'd love Oprah to hear it too. Buckle up.

[00:00:53] Carrie Lupoli: Okay, so I have a task for you at the end of this episode, and that is, let's get this out to [00:01:00] Oprah. We are going to collectively work to share this with her because I think I am going to give her a very different perspective than what anybody else in her world has ever told her before. And if Oprah doesn't get this, okay.

[00:01:19] Carrie Lupoli: I want you to take this and, uh, my hope is that you will take what we're talking about today and really use it in your own life because there's a very important perspective that I think needs to be told around Oprah, obesity, and Ozempic. And this is going to be a different viewpoint than I think you've heard anywhere else with regards to this topic.

[00:01:41] Carrie Lupoli: Now, if you don't know what I'm talking about, Oprah recently has gone viral for her. Statement. Belief system that there's an obesity gene that caused her to overeat. She believed that it, um, wasn't that she ate [00:02:00] and became ob obese, that it, she was obese, therefore she ate. And that has gotten a lot of slack, a lot of shaming, um, the internet.

[00:02:09] Carrie Lupoli: And I am here to maybe, like, we're just gonna stop the virality of this for one second and actually look at this in a very different way. I have a lot of opinions on this, and I'm really excited to be able to share them all with you because I really believe and know that there's a perspective here that needs to be said.

[00:02:27] Carrie Lupoli: So, uh, I wanna share with you the viral video of her on the view. Uh, I'm gonna share that with you, and that I'm gonna share another one that. I hadn't ever seen before until I started really digging into what I wanted to share with you all with regards to this episode, and this changed everything for me.

[00:02:48] Carrie Lupoli: Now, I am 1000000%. I like, I cannot say that I love and care and obsessed about women, and then at the same time, shame [00:03:00] women. And you may not agree with Oprah. On things that she says, uh, you may not feel like she's somebody that you look at for information, that's fine. You may be somebody that really looks up to Oprah and that like really listens to what she says.

[00:03:19] Carrie Lupoli: That's fine too. Regardless of how you feel about Oprah, especially those of you that have negative feelings about her, what I will say unapologetically is that she's a woman and. I had to actually check myself because I don't shame women. I believe that we have been shamed for way too long, about way too many things, and I don't ever wanna be on a record.

[00:03:44] Carrie Lupoli: I don't ever wanna be off record. I don't ever want the thought in my brain to be about shaming women, but I found myself after watching this video, getting really frustrated. Frustrated with what she said because of the impact I believed it would have on [00:04:00] other women. And so when I first thought about doing this podcast, that was actually my angle, kind of going after this statement that I wholeheartedly disagreed with and wanted to share my frustrations, and I knew that there was a danger of the fact that that could feel shaming to some that really loved her, supported her, and felt like I was not being.

[00:04:29] Carrie Lupoli: Uh, fair or nice. And that wasn't what I wanted either. So I knew I had a perspective. I have, I've had a perspective for years and years about, about Oprah and her weight loss journey, and it wasn't until now that I really think all the puzzle pieces came together for me. So we're digging into Oprah, Ozempic, obesity, all of it in a very different way than I think you've heard at all, but.

[00:04:55] Carrie Lupoli: Before we actually get into my commentary, I really think it's important that we [00:05:00] watch the video that went viral so that we can all see and hear what we're talking about. 

[00:05:07] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: All these years I thought I was overeating. Mm-hmm. I was standing there with all the food noise, what I ate, what I should eat, how many calories was that?

[00:05:14] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: How long is it gonna take? I thought that was because of me and my fault. Yeah. Now I understand that if you carry the obesity gene, mm-hmm. If that is what you have, that is what makes you overeat. You don't overeat and become obese. Obesity causes you to overeat, right? Obesity causes you to have all of that food noise.

[00:05:36] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: And what the GLP ones have done for me, and I know a, a number of other people, is to quiet that noise. Yes. 

[00:05:43] Carrie Lupoli: Okay. So we're gonna have to break this video up into a few different pieces. First, she thought for so many years it was her fault. In my private practice, I work, we work with women. That is our passion.

[00:05:57] Carrie Lupoli: That is our obsession. We believe that women are the [00:06:00] cog in the wheel of their family. That we have been treated and, and, and conditioned to believe that we are not enough, unless we look a certain way and weigh a certain way and are a certain way. And we have believed that we don't have enough willpower, we don't have enough discipline.

[00:06:18] Carrie Lupoli: We are broken. And so when I first heard her say, I thought it was my fault, my heart went out to her, 'cause that is exactly the same words that I hear from the women that we talk to. We talk to hundreds and hundreds of women, thousands, many month, months of women that say the same thing. I thought it was my fault.

[00:06:39] Carrie Lupoli: And this is why I wrote my book, from Corset to Crown, because in all reality, we have been given and forced really to wear this corset, not a physical one, but a mental one. [00:07:00] One made of food rules and conditioning and a belief system that. Weight matter,s and it directly aligns with your value. I dunno, when we put this corset on, I've thought so much about this because when we are born, we don't have it on.

[00:07:18] Carrie Lupoli: I mean, nobody puts it on a baby. Everybody looks at that baby, and they're like, gosh, that baby is so much value and is so worthy of love and attention. I don't know at what age we as girls get this corset put on us. Are told to put it on, or it just comes onto us, but it, it's at some point, we realize I need to look a certain way in order to be accepted.

[00:07:52] Carrie Lupoli: I need to be a certain way, and the rule is you have to pull the laces of that corset. You have to [00:08:00] shrink. Good girls don't talk too loud. They don't cause a fuss. They also look a certain way, and they have to be pretty in order to be valuable. And for years and years, turning into decades, we have continuously pulled the laces of that corset.

[00:08:20] Carrie Lupoli: It is the women that come to me. I always say that I am not the first place people come to when they are trying to lose weight or get ahold of their health, but I am always the last, but I don't work with everyone that comes to me because the woman that comes to me that is the most successful realizes that they can no longer breathe because of this cor.

[00:08:40] Carrie Lupoli: They might not be fully conscious of it, but they know that that's what's happening. I, I, I can't live like this anymore. There's got to be something else. There's gotta be a freedom. There's gotta be a loosening of these laces. You can't name it, but you feel it. So when she says it's not her fault, or if [00:09:00] she thought it was her fault, I like, I, I get that.

[00:09:02] Carrie Lupoli: And that matters for so many reasons. But then the second piece of this. Has to do with this obesity gene, and the story, really, that she has been told that it's not your fault because you were born obese. The truth is, it's not your fault because you were culturally conditioned to believe that your values in a number in a scale and that weight loss should be the ultimate goal of every single woman, including you.

[00:09:30] Carrie Lupoli: And you need to do whatever you can to get there. And if you can't do it, then there's something wrong with you. But that's not what she was told. That made her feel better. That gave her peace. It was you were born with a disease that is actually proven to be a lifestyle disease. I mean, she goes on to talk about high blood pressure medication, and if she went off her high blood pressure medication, then she would have high blood pressure, and that she needs a high [00:10:00] blood pressure medication.

[00:10:01] Carrie Lupoli: To manage her high blood pressure. That is simply not true, and it's not surprising that that is what she has been told because our medical industry is tied along with our weight loss industry, the diet industry, the pharmaceutical industry, the pharma, the food industry. It's all connected. And our doctors now, I'm guessing that she's a doctor that gives her more than 10 minutes, but they're still trained in this way around pharmaceuticals.

[00:10:28] Carrie Lupoli: But we know that high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes, just to name a few, the root cause of that is blood sugar di dysregulation, the root cause of that, it's not about you are what you eat, it's you are what you absorb in our bodies. We have a food industry that is making us sicker. We have a pharmaceutical industry that wants to keep us on drugs for the rest of our lives, and it becomes this terrible cycle.

[00:10:56] Carrie Lupoli: And 99.9% of [00:11:00] nutritionists are still trained today in the understanding that caloric deprivation is the goal. She says that in that video, she counted calories like this is a woman that has promoted every type of weight loss diet there is. She's the epitome of someone that has a corset and keeps thinking that the right thing to do is continue to pull on the laces to make it shrink you.

[00:11:26] Carrie Lupoli: She has been celebrated and esteemed when she loses weight. If there's anybody, anybody, like every woman that I talk to has had some sort of version of this in their life, but not to the extreme of Oprah. She's on public display. When people say You look good, it is code for you look smaller. You know that about your own life, but imagine magnifying that a million times when you're Oprah.

[00:11:53] Carrie Lupoli: You start to believe the things that people tell you. The loudest voice wins. Then you tell [00:12:00] yourself this. So she has counted every calorie. So when nutritionists are being taught, you have to deprive yourself of calories, right? Be it a caloric deficit. Women just here, eat less, eat less, eat less, restrict, punish, and that is what she has done.

[00:12:18] Carrie Lupoli: And I've always said, what thrives in a deficit? Name one thing that thrives in a deficit. Oprah is the epitome of a person who has tried it all, and it doesn't work. So we believe that this is the only next step, and we have made her believe and therefore share with others that this is not about her, not being her fault.

[00:12:40] Carrie Lupoli: This is about the fact that she was born with an obesity gene. This is not her fault because we have been taught all wrong. We have been made to believe the wrong things. But let's be really clear. Obesity and Oprah's obesity has everything to do [00:13:00] with what she has been putting in her mouth, treating her body, showing up for herself.

[00:13:05] Carrie Lupoli: Yo-yo dieting in and of itself can cause metabolic dysfunction, and with all of the yo-yo that she's done, no wonder she's where she is, but is it her fault? No, and this next video that I'm gonna show you is going to remind us of that, regardless of how you feel about her. Because she's representative right now of every single woman.

[00:13:27] Carrie Lupoli: She's representative of you and of me. But the other thing that she says, again, I could like go into depth with so many different pieces of that one video, is that when she takes a GLP one, the food noise is gone. And she has been known to say, I've seen this in many, when I was preparing for this podcast, it was like I was going down rabbit holes of videos and saying that when you're small, you don't have the food noise.

[00:13:50] Carrie Lupoli: I have the food noise. I had the food noise. That is what an eating disorder is. It is nothing but noise, but the noise is [00:14:00] coming from all of the noise that has been fed to us over the years, around this corset being tightened. We don't know how to fuel our bodies in a way that actually allows 'em to thrive.

[00:14:13] Carrie Lupoli: My clients within days lose to food noise. When we fuel ourselves correctly, we've just been taught a whole bunch of bs. I say this all the time, we have been taught a bunch of BS, and I don't understand how, with all of her resources, people are still telling her Eat less, move more. And, and she, I can understand what she's like.

[00:14:36] Carrie Lupoli: I, I've tried that. It doesn't work for me. I must be broken. There must be something wrong with me. Oh, wait. Then somebody says, yes, Oprah, you have an obesity gene. Oh, that's what's wrong with me. I feel like they have, yes, ma'am. Her death like that is not okay. This is the problem that so many women have.

[00:14:56] Carrie Lupoli: The women, when the women that come to me, like I've said a hundred times, I'm never [00:15:00] the first place people come to, but I'm, I'm always the last. They have been doing the same thing over and over again. It's just literally a different, uh, the same wolf and a different sheep's clothing. Every single diet is exactly the same.

[00:15:12] Carrie Lupoli: I do not care if you put a package on a called noom, weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, or GLP one. It's all the same. Now, the thing with GLP one, it's just suppressing you, but it's also making you codependent. On something else. She even talks about how she tried to go off of it. She tried to go off, and the weight just came back on, as if that is the number one thing I've always said.

[00:15:35] Carrie Lupoli: If you focus on weight versus health, you will get very different results. Weight becomes this ego-driven goal. We put a number on what we think it should be. But if we work to get to our optimal health from the inside and the out, we get to our optimal weight. But that isn't ever what, and my heart breaks about this, what Oprah is going after.

[00:15:59] Carrie Lupoli: She's going after [00:16:00] a number because she has been affirmed over and over and over again. It doesn't matter that you are a woman of color that did some incredibly, uh, almost impossible things, has reached a level of success at the timeframe that she did it in the eighties. That was unheard of, really? For plus-size women of color to do No, no, no.

[00:16:26] Carrie Lupoli: That was never the thing that she was truly known for. It was constantly around the weight. Always, but she also has been taught or told and made to believe that a, it's an obesity gene, B, that the food noise is just hers and hers alone, or obese people's. No, no. This is something that happens to all of us when we don't have a, a balanced body.

[00:16:52] Carrie Lupoli: I intentionally wore these outfits, the my, the hat and the shirt. Bold, balanced, and beautiful because when we are balanced. [00:17:00] Not deprived. It is amazing how the food noise, the cravings, the fatigue goes away. It's mind-boggling to me. How ha She hasn't. I know. I know. She's gonna feel like she's tried it all, but I am saying to you, they're all different.

[00:17:21] Carrie Lupoli: Diets that are all the same thing, all based on deprivation. There's nothing wrong with you, and it's not your fault, but you're being told it's not your fault for very, um, unhealthy reasons, and it's just not okay. So let's go into the second video because this is where it all comes together. This is where my frustration went to empathy.

[00:17:39] Carrie Lupoli: My frustration with the message went to true and total passion for sharing this in a different way. Listen to this. 

[00:17:47] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: The reason why I've done this book with Dr. Anya is because what I felt all those years, the shame and the blame that I gave to myself. Mm-hmm. I felt it because it was my fault. I felt it was my [00:18:00] fault.

[00:18:00] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: I was overweight. And so when comedians made fun of me, I felt like. It's okay for me to be the butt of their jokes because I should be losing the weight. Mm. I should be able to keep the weight off, and I felt embarrassed every time I put the weight back on. So I accepted it because I thought they were right.

[00:18:20] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: You know, that horrible moment that I had on the Tonight Show when I was so excited to be there for the first time, and I bought these new shoes, and I spent my entire paycheck on the Stewart Weitzman shoes. And Joan River said to me, shame, shame, shame on you for, for, for not losing the weight. How did you gain the weight?

[00:18:38] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: How did you gain the weight at Joan? And how did you gain the weight? And I remember leaving feeling. Embarrassed, but that she said I could come back if I lost 15 pounds. Oh. So I wasn't even like upset with her. I thought, I gotta get on, and I gotta lose those 15 pounds. 

[00:18:55] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: Oh boy. Well, you were not alone.

[00:18:56] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: There were so many women like you and me and everybody else who couldn't lose. [00:19:00] That's 

[00:19:00] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: right. 

[00:19:00] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: Even 10, we couldn't lose. 

[00:19:01] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: So then I went back to the show, which was called AM Chicago at the time, and said, all right, everybody, we gotta lose the weight. Yeah. You know, and so the fact that I was ridiculed in the tabloids.

[00:19:13] Oprah Winfrey video from The View: Every single week. Mm-hmm. Yeah. For like 20 years. Yeah. I just grew to accept that as, yeah, as a way of being. 

[00:19:20] Carrie Lupoli: So that makes it all make so much sense. Think about this. From the time she started, she was ridiculed and made to believe that she was not enough for her weight. It takes. It's like impossible. I am sorry, but I mean, that was in the eighties, right?

[00:19:39] Carrie Lupoli: 40 years ago, she was like 30. Like it takes a very strong person to be able to say, uh, no, I'm not gonna listen to that. And that was a time I always say that social media, if you will, right? Media was one way. Only there was no dissenting voice. There was nobody telling you that what [00:20:00] they were doing, saying, thinking, or telling you about was wrong.

[00:20:04] Carrie Lupoli: We just, she said it. I just accepted. I wasn't even mad. I just accepted it as truth. I just accepted it. I was not enough. And this is what's so interesting, this woman with ca chameleon, ca cajillions and cajillions and oodles of money. Has the same story as you as the women that I hear constantly with the women that we talk to.

[00:20:26] Carrie Lupoli: There is a story from your past that told you at a very vulnerable age, at a very important time, that you were not enough because of what you looked like. You were not enough. You got that corset, and you were told, squeeze it. You're not squeezing it. You're not pulling the laces hard enough. Oprah had the corset on, and she was told what you're doing.

[00:20:51] Carrie Lupoli: I mean, she was on the Tonight Show. Nope. Shame on you. Joan Rivers said, shame on you, not. [00:21:00] Wow. Look at what you've accomplished. Nope. This is only about weight. Weight is the only thing that matters if you look good. You're worthy, you're deserving. If you look not the way that we have already predetermined, you should look regardless of your body type, regardless of your accomplishments.

[00:21:26] Carrie Lupoli: If you don't look the way we have decided you should look, you aren't enough. Squeeze that corset tighter. So what did you do? She was like, okay. She wasn't even mad. She was like, Hey, everybody, we gotta pull the laces on the corset. We gotta pull what I would've wanted her to do. But I know now, as I saw this, even though I was frustrated when I saw the first part of that, where she was talking about the OB obesity gene, what I see here, what I see in that video is a woman that was shamed into believing the [00:22:00] truth.

[00:22:00] Carrie Lupoli: That was a lie. It wasn't true that she had to lose 15 pounds to be valuable. You know what I would've wanted to say to Joan right there? I don't wanna come back to the Tonight Show, if that's your measure of what success looks like, if that's how you're determining who your guests are. Bye-bye. I don't wanna be a guest of yours.

[00:22:23] Carrie Lupoli: Imagine if Oprah had taken a stand and had become unapologetically her and said, listen, I'm gonna show up for myself in the way that works for me because I love myself. But instead that moment and then all the moments thereafter of nothing but shaming. Took her into a place of believing that weight mattered more than anything else.

[00:22:46] Carrie Lupoli: This woman, who's one of the richest people in our country who has done some of the most impossible things, really to rise up in the way that she did, but to be constantly stuck in [00:23:00] the conversation of weight is a tragedy. And I wanna know why anybody around her isn't saying, wasn't saying to her, isn't now saying to her, no.

[00:23:09] Carrie Lupoli: Take a stand for every single woman. The stand for women to justify GLP ones in order to lose weight so that they can be valuable. And not be quote unquote shamed is not the message I think Oprah wants to be known for. I just don't. What I really think you want to be known for Oprah, is somebody that said, no, I will not succumb to what the cultural conditioning is about what a beautiful woman looks like.

[00:23:35] Carrie Lupoli: I will take off the corset because we are no longer not going to breathe. I'm going to take off this corset. And be done with the cultural conditioning that has been forced upon me for 70 years. I want you, Oprah, to love yourself into health, not shame yourself, punish yourself, or deprive yourself into metabolic disease.

[00:23:57] Carrie Lupoli: You said that you have high blood [00:24:00] pressure and you have justified that by saying, if I just don't take my high blood pressure medicine, I'm gonna, my blood pressure's gonna rise again. The high blood pressure. Diabetes, pre-diabetes, uh, obesity, it's all related to a dysregulated blood sugar. It's all related to a lifestyle and it is not about calories in versus calories out as you have been sold.

[00:24:22] Carrie Lupoli: And I know why you feel like you have done it all because that is how my clients have felt. They have done it all. But the problem is the diet industry, the weight loss industry, the pharmaceutical industry, the food industry does not have our best interest at heart. If Oprah, with all of her money and all of her resources cannot figure this out, then no way can anybody else, and I, I don't think you were trying to sell that to people.

[00:24:46] Carrie Lupoli: As a lie, I believe that you believe that to be true. And what I want to be true and why I'm wearing this hat and this shirt is because. You went that day after Joan Rivers told you that [00:25:00] and shamed yourself into punishment. You said, I am not enough. You're mad at your body and you need to punish it in order for it to respond in the way that you want.

[00:25:12] Carrie Lupoli: And I think about our body and a relationship that we have with it, and I think about it like any other relationship. Oprah, you and Gail are best friends because you have trust, and that trust came because of positive interactions consistently over time. You and Gail were not perfect to each other, right?

[00:25:34] Carrie Lupoli: But you had trust with each other, and that trust is what matters. If you and Gail were in a fight or had problems for years and years and years, and then you tried to fix it, but you fixed it by saying, I'm mad at you. I'm gonna continue to be mad at you, I'm gonna punish you, I'm gonna deprive you. The friendship would never blossom, but that's what we do with our bodies, and that's what you've done with your body for your entire life.

[00:25:59] Carrie Lupoli: And [00:26:00] it breaks my heart 'cause this is what I see with every single woman. The last thing I wanna do is ever feel, have a woman feel like she's being shamed. So hear my heart on this. The shaming that every woman has gone through is not your fault. It's not, we have absolutely been sold a whole book of lies for decades about our worth, about our value, about what's important, about what our goals should be.

[00:26:29] Carrie Lupoli: We never had a dissenting voice. There was nobody on the other side of those television shows, of those magazines, of those posters, of those commercials. Of the Tonight Show, but there is now, and now we can look at this in a different way. We, you can't unsee it. When I see Oprah now and I see the words that she says, I cannot unsee the, the, the true travesty that has been done onto her because the loudest voice wins.

[00:26:58] Carrie Lupoli: And she has been [00:27:00] told what every other woman has been told. In order to have value, you have to be small. You have to keep just cinching that corset tighter and tighter that your value is not, and what you've done in your life, who you've served, how your body has done. Miraculous things. No, no, no, no. Your, your value is in that number in a scale, and you're not allowed to be confident.

[00:27:23] Carrie Lupoli: You're not allowed to be productive. You're not allowed to serve others unless you look a certain way. We have bought into that and it is time to stop, and so what, Oprah. I want you to do is to be able to stand up and say, no, you know what? I am healthy from the inside and out. A weight goal is not a goal.

[00:27:44] Carrie Lupoli: A, we have no idea what our optimal goal should be for weight. We put a number on there and then, like we, we step on that scale, and it takes all of our power away, all of it away. What would happen, Oprah, if you didn't have a scale? If you didn't know how much you weighed, [00:28:00] what would you do then? How would you show up for yourself differently?

[00:28:03] Carrie Lupoli: You'd have to listen to your body. You'd have to actually be thinking differently than a number. What if Oprah, you were actually taught how to fuel your body? Instead of deprive it. But here's another thing that I know is that with the thousands of women that I have worked with, I have taught them, especially at the very beginning of my journey as a nutritionist, I taught them how to balance their blood sugar through food.

[00:28:25] Carrie Lupoli: And it was so amazing, 'cause they were like, oh my gosh, I never have to diet again. The food noise is gone, the cravings are gone. I'm losing weight. It's like all the, the symptoms of health are now reversing in my favor. Because that's what weight loss. Weight gain and, and, and stubborn weight loss is. It's a simply a sys a symptom, and we keep going after a symptom, like a whack-a-mole game instead of actually going after the root cause.

[00:28:53] Carrie Lupoli: And I, I, what I. I need us to see and to, to recognize is that, that that [00:29:00] number on a scale does not measure our health at all, but having a goal of that, it takes all of our power away and it's scary. Because it becomes a truth that we tell ourself over and over and over again, and what we believe is what we end up doing.

[00:29:23] Carrie Lupoli: And so Oprah, despite all of the success, my biggest fear is that when I die one day, God's gonna look at me and say, you did good, but I have so much more planned for you. And I wanna be the healthiest version of myself to be able to dig into my purpose for as long as possible. And when I think about Oprah and one day when she's gone, what is she gonna be known for?

[00:29:43] Carrie Lupoli: Oprah, what are you going to be known for? Because I think you have the capacity and you should to be known for some incredible accomplishments in your life. But instead, you're gonna be known for a woman that chased a number on a scale for what to [00:30:00] please the tabloids. To please Joan Rivers, to please people that will never be pleased, that will always find reason to judge.

[00:30:08] Carrie Lupoli: Or were you going after I, were you going after success and, and servitude and love and peace in your heart and your soul? Were you going after true health? Deep health? Or were you going after an ego-driven goal of weight? How are you going to be remembered? It wasn't your fault. You were, you were given this corset, like the rest of us, when I talk to a woman, it's like they, they realize that they can't breathe anymore, and they need to take off that corset, whether they realize they're wearing the corset or not.

[00:30:41] Carrie Lupoli: But you're still wearing the corset, and you're just squeezing it tighter and tighter. And you think now the GLP one is just, that is the thing. That's the thing that's been missing. Here's how I know you were not obese, therefore you ate, is because 50 years ago, obesity was at like a 10% [00:31:00] rate. It is now over 40% of Americans or obese.

[00:31:05] Carrie Lupoli: We have seen in study and study and country after country. Entire populations who, once they were introduced to processed foods, became obese when they never had that problem before. We know that 93% of people have metabolic disease that we never saw before. We are seeing incidences of one in three teenagers being pre-diabetic.

[00:31:25] Carrie Lupoli: We are seeing non-alcoholic fatty liver disease, pancreatic cancer, and numbers we've never seen before. We never saw a kid with diabetes 40 years ago. This is not what we are being born with. It is how life is being led to us, and our head is not up to see it. So not only is the, uh, is our culture right now in terms of these industries that are feeding us, slop literally bamboozling us when it comes to.

[00:31:58] Carrie Lupoli: Weight loss when it comes to the [00:32:00] food, processed food industry, when it comes to pharmaceuticals, but we also have been made to believe that we have to look a certain way in order to be a certain way. We have to look a certain way in order to be enough. It floors me a little bit Oprah, when I know what good friends you are with.

[00:32:15] Carrie Lupoli: Jamie Krn Lima, who wrote the book Worthy, who has her own experience just like all of us do around our relationship with body and Food, and her message is Love Yourself, show. Up for yourself. I remember she said, like, when a baby is born, they are so valuable. They didn't have to do anything to earn that value.

[00:32:31] Carrie Lupoli: What happened to you that you believe that you had to earn that same value that you were born with? And yet that friendship, like I, I want, I want her message to be your message because your message matters to so many women. And if your message is, Hey, it's not your fault. Okay, but when it finishes, dissented with you, were likely born with an obesity gene.

[00:32:58] Carrie Lupoli: You can't control [00:33:00] yourself. You have to rely on a drug to be able to satiate you, to give you peace. That's not the message that I think you wanna be known for. I have a shirt, I, I, I, I was struggling on what shirt to wear. I have a shirt that says, love yourself enough to show up for yourself. Like, we have to love ourselves into a relationship with ourselves, not hate ourselves into it.

[00:33:22] Carrie Lupoli: I have a goal that I don't, I wanna be able to kick a, a soccer ball with my grand grandkids, with my great grandkids, with my eighties and nineties and my hundreds. I wanna be able to, if I fall, not break a bone, I wanna be able to lift a suitcase over my head so I can get into an airplane and travel. I don't wanna be a burden to my kids.

[00:33:40] Carrie Lupoli: There's no way I want them to have to take care of me when I'm older. But also, even deeper than that, I know that I was uniquely and purposely made. I know Oprah has a unique skillset, talent, and true meaning on this earth. And I don't think it was about weighing a certain amount. In fact, I'm sure it wasn't.[00:34:00] 

[00:34:00] Carrie Lupoli: We have to stop living, like our purpose on earth is to find the right diet. It wasn't. It wasn't hers, Oprah, it's not your mission on earth to find the right diet, to find the right way to weigh a certain amount. Our our, our purpose on earth is to be a certain amount for as long as possible, and we cannot keep going around this rollercoaster of this diet industry, allowing women to believe that the corset just has to get tighter.

[00:34:34] Carrie Lupoli: It's time to take off the corset and Oprah. That's the message I want you to send to women. That's the message that will resonate. There's people shaming you right now because of the obesity gene comment. There's never gonna be a reduction of that. That can't be your goal, and I don't really think it is, but also, I know that's what prompted all of this.

[00:34:54] Carrie Lupoli: You were told so many times that you weren't enough because of what you looked like, and you [00:35:00] started to believe it, and you still believe it, and it is simply just not true, 'cause you are on this earth. You are here for so much more than a number on a scale. That's the message I want you to share with women.

[00:35:11] Carrie Lupoli: Not to go on another Weight Watchers, not to go on another Noom, not to go on another Jenny Craig. Not to go into another caloric deprivation, but to understand how our body really works, how it can be balanced, how it's beautiful, how it's bold, unapologetic, and. How it's a miracle, and instead of hating ourselves into deprivation or a drug that is not here to serve us, that is not a drug that is here to serve you.

[00:35:40] Carrie Lupoli: It is making you codependent, and it is doing it to every other woman that's listening. That is not the solution to food noise. It is not the solution to your values, not the solution to your health. And so I pray. I push. I'm obsessed with women getting out of [00:36:00] their own way into seeing that we are wearing this corset and instead to put on the crown that we all deserve, and we're born with the crown of worth of self-value, self-esteem of self-care, of love.

[00:36:21] Carrie Lupoli: Without that, what do we have? We can't give to others when we are deprived, when we hate ourselves, when we believe that there's something wrong with us and that we're broken. But we also have to recognize that showing up for ourselves is not about self-comfort. Self-comfort doesn't move us anywhere.

[00:36:40] Carrie Lupoli: Self-care. Self-care moves us forward. Self-care is showing up in the gym. Self-care is not weighing ourselves, but understanding the way that we need to be. Oprah. That's what I want us to think about. That's what I want your message to be. That's what I think will make all the difference in your [00:37:00] legacy, is being at peace with who you are, what you've done, how you've shown up for others, and not about what that number on the scale says, but what the healthiest version of you does says, thinks, and believes.

[00:37:17] Carrie Lupoli: If you knew that, if that was your goal to truly be the healthiest version of yourself, and you knew what that version did, and you knew what that version said, and you knew what that version believed, and you knew what that, that version of you thought, everything else falls into place. I'm so sorry you were shamed for so long.

[00:37:38] Carrie Lupoli: And I don't know that there's very many people because all the women that I have talked to have not been shamed in such a public awful way. So getting out of that, I can understand must feel impossible, but it's so possible if you could really take a step [00:38:00] back. Look at yourself in the mirror and see the corset and take it off, and replace it with the crown.

[00:38:09] Carrie Lupoli: You're deserving. We're all deserving. I will send you this hat. I'll send you the shirt. I want the message for every woman out there to be. You were not born to fit into a corset. You were meant to rise into your crown. Don't let anybody, not Joan Rivers, not the internet, not the tabloids, tell you anything else, okay?

[00:38:38] Carrie Lupoli: Should we make sure Oprah gets this? And if Oprah can't get it, can I make sure you get it? I'd love to hear your comments. I'd love to hear your thoughts. I'd love for you to subscribe to my YouTube channel, to the podcast, and then comment, tell me how you're feeling. Tell me what you're thinking. Share this with a friend.

[00:38:57] Carrie Lupoli: Let's [00:39:00] go.